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clutch · 04-04-2007, 12:10 AM

Hi Daisy

I'm sorry for your situation. It's extremely frustrating, and unfortunately people do talk, sometimes. Always have; always will.

Personally I've almost had to force myself to shift my thinking over the years. (Note: I'm over 50, now. And Gail Sheehy is right in her book Passages. One of the things she said is that when you hit 50, you simply stop giving a shit about what people think of you. I know, that's way over-generalized, but there is an element of truth to it).

However, pre-50, it was a whole lot more important. But, even before I hit 50, I realized that people do talk, and I just anticipated taking some lumps about our lifestyle.

Interestingly, when the relatively few found out about us, most were more curious and non-judgemental than not. In fact, there was only one set of friends that had a big problem with it, and pain in the neck that it was, we got through it just fine.

I don't know if this is helpful or not. If it is, good; if I'm missing the mark, sorry. It's mostly just to empathize and to encourage you that in the long run, things will be okay.

04-04-2007, 12:10 AM	#12 (permalink)
clutch Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 140 Location: tennessee	Re: Outed... Hi Daisy I'm sorry for your situation. It's extremely frustrating, and unfortunately people do talk, sometimes. Always have; always will. Personally I've almost had to force myself to shift my thinking over the years. (Note: I'm over 50, now. And Gail Sheehy is right in her book Passages. One of the things she said is that when you hit 50, you simply stop giving a shit about what people think of you. I know, that's way over-generalized, but there is an element of truth to it). However, pre-50, it was a whole lot more important. But, even before I hit 50, I realized that people do talk, and I just anticipated taking some lumps about our lifestyle. Interestingly, when the relatively few found out about us, most were more curious and non-judgemental than not. In fact, there was only one set of friends that had a big problem with it, and pain in the neck that it was, we got through it just fine. I don't know if this is helpful or not. If it is, good; if I'm missing the mark, sorry. It's mostly just to empathize and to encourage you that in the long run, things will be okay.