The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Need help getting him over the performance, size fear

sereneiders · 04-03-2007, 01:55 AM

I'd dare him to look at this in the opposite way. Let's suppose every swinger woman were pursuing "hung" guys, then... they should be married with hung guys as well, and swinging would be an activity reserved to hung guys and their spouses.

Now, you're his wife, why are you with "not such a hung" guy? And why do you want to swing? To "finally" meet a big cock?

Most swingers are into this because of the variety. Certainly, there are women who'd preffer (or require) a "hung" guy, and in those cases, it deppends on these womans to tell how hung is hung enough.

I believe I am average. I mean, I ve seen guys bigger than me, and guys shorter than me. My wife has been with bigger and shorter guys, but it takes way more than just to cock to drive her crazy: the main sexual organ is the brain, it is about everithing you do in bed, even more than just sticking the cock inside a hole. Byt giving that much importance to size, he'd be depriving everithing else from it value.

Up to me, I am more than "just a cock", I am plenty of resources to have fun and to provide an enjoyable experience to a playmate... even if my cock isn't up to perform (something that, indeed, happend): I have a tonge, ten fingers (not counting my feets ones), even can put my nose to work!

So, let's do the opposite: let's suppose he isn't that well endowed (because there's allways someone better in that department), let's suppose his cock wont perform properly (because it WILL happen, sooner or later, some time, moreover at the begining)... and notice I pointed out "his cock wont perform", because he may perform well enough even ig his cock doesn't wants to. Does he really believe people doesn't expect this to happen? It is a feasible scenario, one that happens pretty often, and yet people have fun.

The worst he can do is make a drama of this, moreover if a public drama in front of a playmate. Because the size, and the performance issues are part of the game, but making a drama of this really spoils the game for everyone involved, and it's be a way too selfish attitude. And while he remains playing the game, everithing would be ok.

04-03-2007, 01:55 AM	#9 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,131 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: Need help getting him over the performance, size fear I'd dare him to look at this in the opposite way. Let's suppose every swinger woman were pursuing "hung" guys, then... they should be married with hung guys as well, and swinging would be an activity reserved to hung guys and their spouses. Now, you're his wife, why are you with "not such a hung" guy? And why do you want to swing? To "finally" meet a big cock? Most swingers are into this because of the variety. Certainly, there are women who'd preffer (or require) a "hung" guy, and in those cases, it deppends on these womans to tell how hung is hung enough. I believe I am average. I mean, I ve seen guys bigger than me, and guys shorter than me. My wife has been with bigger and shorter guys, but it takes way more than just to cock to drive her crazy: the main sexual organ is the brain, it is about everithing you do in bed, even more than just sticking the cock inside a hole. Byt giving that much importance to size, he'd be depriving everithing else from it value. Up to me, I am more than "just a cock", I am plenty of resources to have fun and to provide an enjoyable experience to a playmate... even if my cock isn't up to perform (something that, indeed, happend): I have a tonge, ten fingers (not counting my feets ones), even can put my nose to work! So, let's do the opposite: let's suppose he isn't that well endowed (because there's allways someone better in that department), let's suppose his cock wont perform properly (because it WILL happen, sooner or later, some time, moreover at the begining)... and notice I pointed out "his cock wont perform", because he may perform well enough even ig his cock doesn't wants to. Does he really believe people doesn't expect this to happen? It is a feasible scenario, one that happens pretty often, and yet people have fun. The worst he can do is make a drama of this, moreover if a public drama in front of a playmate. Because the size, and the performance issues are part of the game, but making a drama of this really spoils the game for everyone involved, and it's be a way too selfish attitude. And while he remains playing the game, everithing would be ok.