[THB]

You have to be careful who you allow to know this kind of information. We have disclosed our predilections to one vanilla friend who has been totally respectful of our privacy. Other vanilla friends don't get that level of information, as much because it would disrupt their world as much as leaking it would disrupt ours. You just have to think it through carefully. As for your friend, his weak resolve is a character flaw. Rethink that relationship. Good luck.