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MattnCynn · 04-02-2007, 10:42 AM

Boy made my first post today and here I am all ready making my second lol.

We have been talking about this for a long time. This last wknd we went to a local club and enjoyed ourselves. We are taking things slow and pretty much just observed and took in the atmosphere. We loved it and are planning on returning in a cpl of wks.

My question is how to get him over thinking about how he measures up to the other men (he is average not small) He also is so worried about getting nervous and not being able to perform. Even after the host of the club told him most men do have that problem their first time he still cant seem to get over it.

Also while I am here how do you go about introducing yourself to another cpl at the club and letting them know you are interested? We are both on the shy side until we get to know people. Or how do you know they might be interested? Really new at all this and not sure how things go.

04-02-2007, 10:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
MattnCynn Registered Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 9 Location: Indiana	Need help getting him over the performance, size fear Boy made my first post today and here I am all ready making my second lol. We have been talking about this for a long time. This last wknd we went to a local club and enjoyed ourselves. We are taking things slow and pretty much just observed and took in the atmosphere. We loved it and are planning on returning in a cpl of wks. My question is how to get him over thinking about how he measures up to the other men (he is average not small) He also is so worried about getting nervous and not being able to perform. Even after the host of the club told him most men do have that problem their first time he still cant seem to get over it. Also while I am here how do you go about introducing yourself to another cpl at the club and letting them know you are interested? We are both on the shy side until we get to know people. Or how do you know they might be interested? Really new at all this and not sure how things go.