[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Hi Tybee,

.What about the pace that you mentioned - did it seem rushed?
It didn't seem rushed. At the time it seemed like they wanted to get on with it but they were being shy. In hindsight I think that tension came from a disagreement between them over how far they wanted to take things.

Was this to be the first time you'd be having sex with them? Are they newbies? Have they never done this before?
They are newbies, but it was not the first time we'd been with them. We had played with them including full swap at their house and again at a house party a week later.

When we played at their house it was separate rooms and there was no tension at all. It went very well that time.

At the house party I'm not sure how the whole evening went. I was trying very hard to convince myself that I wasn't feeling awful. I was in pain from a chronic health condition so I bowed out shortly after the play session got going and went to bed. When I left they were in a bedroom set up as a public play room and seemed to be having a good time.

One more thought -- is it possible that they were only up for soft swing, this wasn't communicated to you, and instead of saying something he freaked out?

That is possible I suppose. Given that we had done full swap play with them before and nobody said things were going to be any different I went for it.
I would hope that if they had decided to change the rules they would say so.

We're trying to decide whether we want to chalk this up to a misunderstanding and give it another shot whenever they call us again or give them the "No Thanks" treatment.