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Originally Posted by LetsParty Hi All!
I haven’t posted here in a while, but we just met a couple last night, who had a slightly different take on the Lifestyle, and I was curious about your thoughts.
They do some “cheat and greets” now and again. They may meet a couple and each go out alone with the other’s spouse. Or she may meet another guy, have some fun, and come home and tell the husband, etc. Him, too, on occasion.
That’s all fine and dandy – hotwife… whatever it’s called.
But here is where it gets a bit bizarre:
The “hot wife” often sleeps with married men who are cheating on their own wives. These are also men in her everyday, vanilla world. A colleague from the same company; trainer from the gym; old friend; business networking group, etc.
All these guys are married and cheating.
My partner and I are never ones to judge others. We always believed the more open people are with sex, the Lifestyle, open-marriages, fetishes, honesty, etc. etc. the better.
We’ve always said that the Lifestyle is not just about sex. Sex is the result of honesty, communication, open-mindedness, etc. I know you all understand, but the average vanilla may not.
The woman kept telling us, “It’s not MY sin!”; “I’M not lying!”; “That’s the GUY’s problem!”… And the husband kinda laughed at it.
I dunno.
Are we turning old-fashioned and prude?
Or is there really just something “unlifestyle-esque” about doing it with these cheating men from the community. It’s not that we looked at this woman and “lost respect” for her… but, Hmmm… as open-minded as we are, these people have WIVES sitting at home, thinking their husbands are at business meetings.
What do you think?
I understand that not all lifestylers have occasional separate activities, and to each his or her own. I’m not one to judge and say whether or not that enhances or detracts from a marriage. It’s going off with married, cheating men that kinda make my partner and I look at each other and go “gulp.”
I am so curious to hear your opinions! |
I have not read the other 4 pages of responses so this is just addressing my views on the OP. My humble opinion is you are correct and that this is very unlifestyle-esque and that at best gives swinging a very bad name. This is the type of thing that vanillas fear from swingers is that we will be screwing their partners behind their back. IMHO this is ammoral, unethical and just downright slutty. Call me judgemental all you want this is just plain adultery and cheating and homewrecking and it is being done by someone who calls herself(it'sself) a swinger.
I agree with you that so much of the lifestyle is about the openness and honesty and being open minded to others preferences etc. I don't see where any of that comes into play when you are fucking someone behind their partners back. That is just fucking.
I am also pretty appalled that she would just laugh off that it is not "her sin", I agree that the guys sticking it into her are the ones that have the obligation to their spouse but is she so desparate for sex and attention and approval that she is willing to ruin other peoples marriages and have innocent children being bounced from one parent to the next every weekend just so she can get some cock which she can get whenever she wants anyway?
If you are old fashioned and prude, I am right there with you and hope that many of the other folks on here are too.