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Old 03-18-2007, 04:37 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Default Re: Activities with cheating men. Thoughts?

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Originally Posted by bill&sabrina
Jesus fucking christ. Exclamation points and yelling? Is that really needed? My mistake for thinking my point would be figured out. I'm pleased as punch for those of you that haven't encountered drama, but the odds are good you will have to deal with it as a swinger. This board is full of posts about drama being forced on people, but those people must be lying. Swingers are all honest, and don't bring any drama with them. What was I thinking for suggesting that a lifestyle where you have sex with someone other than your partner, could lead to unwanted drama. I guess I was stupid to suggest that.
I think what people are saying is that bringing swinging into their marriage didn't bring drama into their relationship. Between spouses. From this post of yours, you seem to be referring to that when swinging with other couples, sometimes there is some sort of drama in the relationship between couples. (or singles even)

I think this is actually an agreement. Yes, by being swingers you open yourself up to the possibility you will run across couples (or singles) that create drama. However, I think most people try to minimize that risk. After all, like most profiles read, "We don't want drama!" So by not playing with cheaters this is a step in that direction.

It would seem to me that a person that is cheating on his wife, likely will treat you with the same lack of respect. In fact, I go so far as to say that when we are out with another couple, I look for signs of affection to show me how secure they are. Because that security, that love for each other, is exactly the sign that shows me there likely won't be any of this drama. It was even brought up in a thread by TNT: Click here!

When you swing with a cheater there is also a opportunity for the spouse to find out he/she was cheating and retaliate at you. That's some drama I certainly would never want to be in.

I think that your original post of "And swinging doesn't introduce drama into a marriage?" was a statement provoking exactly the type of response that you recieved.

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