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Originally Posted by bill&sabrina And swinging doesn't introduce drama into a marriage? |
Hell no. Just a badly needed dose of reality. Drama implies something based on the imaginary. Acting. Fictitious bullshit. Cheating is ALL about lying and fiction and the imagined. Swinging is non-fiction. It makes you face reality; cheating allows you to lie to yourself and to others.
Lots of great insights in this thread!! Spoo, Mrs. Fuse, NakedInSeattle... your sentiments are right on target! I'm all for sexual liberty, too, but cheating is not about sex. I have no problem with having sex with these same cheaters...if they weren't lying to and hurting someone they supposedly hold dear. It's like watching someone pull the wings off flies and not saying anything about it. Just because it's not your wings getting plucked or not you doing the plucking doesn't make you blameless. If you see abuse and condone it, it's the same - in my mind - as doing it yourself. Would you walk past someone beating a dog with a stick? I doubt it. To me, playing with a cheater is like handing them the stick to emotionally beat their spouse with. We just can't do it. We REQUIRE honesty...otherwise the chemistry just isn't there. Cheating just kills an erection.
