I have to agree with everyone else...Ick! I could not imagine having a party where I knew it was going to be a lifestyle party with my children around...We have had friends over who are in the lifestyle mixed with vanilla friends for cookouts, pool parties, etc with everyone's kids but there was nothing out of the norm at these parties where the kids would have seen something that they shouldnt. It was just a group of friends getting together and hanging out with no intentions of sex during the evening.
I think that if I saw that the kids were there I would have felt the same as you and kind of leary in being there. But if I noticed later in the evening that the kids still were not gone and things were getting out of hand, that is when I would have left as I would not have felt comfortable with that type of environment. I think that these people are paying too much attention to the lifestyle and not enough attention to their children. And I think they need to take a step back and look at what they are doing to their children.
We have been blessed during the year + that we have not ran into anyone like this or dealt with people who were not friendly. We have met many great people, some whom we have become great friends with and just wish they were closer than they are but I would not trade those moments at all. I just hope our luck doesn't run out.
MrsVan