wow!!this site is truly amazing.. so much sensitive thoughtful feedback.. thanks all so much.. a little more back ground on this.. it's important that i don't paint a picture of myself as some whiny little victim with the insatiable wife.. this is a two way street for sure..
we met a couple a few weeks prior to our 3 some..they came on really strong and although my wife wasn't attracted to him at all, his wife was super attracted to me! anyway... to cut a long story short.. they emailed us the next day and said that she would love to have a one on one with me..and even though i wasn't particularly attracted to her, she was smart and really nice and i was flattered. My wife and i discussed it and she sanctioned it.. truthfully though i wasn't that interested but because I'm a guy i went ahead anyway and made love to her using all my best chops
partly because I could sense she really needed to do it- it was their first time- and they seemed to have it all sorted out in their heads..so i did it.
It wasn't memorable but non the less I had a one on one and I think that is partly why i want to allow my wife to have the same.. she doesn't hold it over my head or anything.. she's not that kind of woman and it certainly isn't about payback.. she's just , as somebody said, found a new toy and she is a very pasionate and sexy woman. the guy is gorgeous and fun and sweet, i like him and I can see why she likes him but he came looking for her not her for him.. and she felt like a teenager again.
all totally forgivable, I mean god knows i have had some crushes on other women over the years that i thought were real but then one day i woke up and realized they were fantasy and not even remotely reciprocated.. who hasn't right?
Still a part of me still wants her to have this experience so she'll see that what made that night so great was that i was there with her, sharing it, participating, loving her. She goes one on one with him and she'll see that he's like so many people.. afraid of intimacy, unable to sustain a full erection/arousal etc. someone else pointed out that he may want to try her a second time to see if he can get aroused because maybe he has issues.. i suspect that is close to the truth..I hate to be crude but my wife is the sexiset damn woman I've ever known and her pussy is tight and sweet
but he couldn't cum for the longest time and it wasn't about stamina. he had one move and that was it. when he did cum he sounded so surprised and relieved i wondered to myself what was going on..
anyway the point is i would beat this guy around the head with a baseball bat if he hurt my wife. She is highly desirable but very vulnerable. 19 years with one guy is a long time.. i fully get why she might want to do this.. but we are sitting here together reading other posts and she is corecting my spelling so we have no secrets.. and best of all she does feel a little more grounded after reading your comments so thank you so much ... it really helps.. I think we'll stick with couples from here on out if we ever do it again..