[lovinher]

There may be those who don't like or agree with my take on this. But I'm not running for president so here goes. I think your marriage is or WAS not as strong as you believed. So far the advice given has been to talk to her. Let her know your feelings, blah blah blah. I'm sure you already have right? If not, what's wrong with you? IMO she is asking for permission to cheat on you and some would say she already has. Even if you agree or go along with it because she gave you an ultimatum in my book that is cheating. You two have more problems going on other than this incident that need to be addressed. I don't buy that the poor girl is confused. If this had been a woman posting, I don't think the responses would have been so forgiving. I am sorry to be so blunt and I feel bad for you. But if you both play with this guy again or let her play alone with him then you deserve anything that transpires. You need to put your foot down and fast. If you piss her off then so be it.