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Originally Posted by LetsParty My partner and I are never ones to judge others. |
This debate has been had before - and I think where the problem always comes up is right here... If you have a problem with cheaters in the lifestyle, you are supposedly "judging" them.
I have a couple of problems with that.
1. How is that "judging"? Isn't it simply being intellectually honest about what is going on? To "judge" is to say that it is wrong - which is hard to say. If you've never been in a bad marriage, it is not easy to relate to people who are. I have sympathy for people who are in loveless marriages - but, still, cheating is cheating - whether they do it out of desperation or maliciousness.
2. Whether it is wrong for them - a thing it is tough to know without knowing their situation - it IS wrong for us. That is not judgment - that is discernment. We are responsible for what is right and wrong for us as a couple. I don't know or understand the problems that would lead a person to cheat - I just know I don't want those problems brought into - or brushed against - my marriage.
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Originally Posted by LetsParty The woman kept telling us, “It’s not MY sin!”; “I’M not lying!”; “That’s the GUY’s problem!”… And the husband kinda laughed at it.
It’s not that we looked at this woman and “lost respect” for her… but, Hmmm… as open-minded as we are, these people have WIVES sitting at home, thinking their husbands are at business meetings. |
Her only "sin" is potentially being a home wrecker...
Yes - there is a wife sitting at home - maybe children. Being an accomplice, she is giving these men the opportunity to hurt a lot of people in their life. No - it probably won't ever bite her in the ass, but what a selfish bitch...
But - let's look at her from an angle of "potential playmate".
She does not care what consequences her playmates might face. "That's the GUY's problem". If she is that callous towards them, it would stand to reason that she could be that callous with you. I would trust a person like this about as much as I would trust a scorpion sitting on my chest...
Swinging is better with people who actually give a shit about the lives they come in intimate contact with.
Spoomonkey