well, ours is a long and involved story. Been married almost 18years, and its been great, and it's had it's downs. Nothing is perfect. Over the years, we had used swing talk during sex to spice it up, I am very sexually driven, although my wife not as much. We got involved in an online game playing with people all over the world. We were using a voip program called ventrilo to talk to these people and my wife heard a voice that just struck a chord in her. She found out by accident one day that he lived in our area, and started talking to him on the phone. She fell head over heels for him just talking to him. This whole time, she and I were going through a rough time in our marriage. On top of that, he needed a place to live and we opened our home to him. I would catch her touching his face and things like that and would ask her about her feelings for him, what was going on etc. A lot of things about our marriage came out too. We even separated for a time. During all of that she developed her relationship with him, but avoided any sexual stuff. As we were working things out, we were chatting and flirting over yahoo one night, I got her so worked up on it, she slept with him for the first time that night. Early the next morning, and I mean early, she called me to see if I was up and invited me over. I came by, she confided in me what she had done and we had some intense sex ourselves as she related what happened. It has been a long and rough road, as I overcame my jealousies, and she struggled with being in love with us both. It's only been a little more than a year since we all met, and almost a year since she and he first made love. The relations hip has really blossomed as we have all realized we can all be in love at the same time. She came to the realization that she wants us both, is not willing to let either of us get away. And I realized I love her too much to not be with her because she is in love with him too. He is fine with it because I am, and he is very much in love with her too, or so I feel he is. We are all learning and growing. Now, as far as swinging goes, I would love to, but he is not comfortable even with us being all together, and she will not outside of the two of us. I respect both of their decisions, I feel one day we will all grow enough that we can be a threesome in bed, and I can wait. My wife has also told me she doesn't mind if I play outside as long as I am safe. I have actually thought about meeting other women to "date" on a regular basis, but I fear being married will turn off women who are not into Poly. There is one girl where she works, and she figured it out, and she has expressed an interest in me, could be a good starting point, since she knows my lifestyle and cant be scared off by it. It's not like my wife or any of us were looking for a poly relationship, it just happened. And I could be quite content living out my sexual life with just the two of them. So what I mean to say is, if the chance to play outside happens, then it does, but I don't need it to be happy with my family. And he is part of our family now.
