 Re: Who makes the first move?
"First Moves" always seemed uncomfortable to us, no matter who makes them.
We like to "evolve" into playing. By that I mean that the evening should proceed in stages, similar to the body language pattern that seems common in dating. The first step toward intimacy is generally holding hands, followed by an interlacing of fingers, a hug, a kiss, and you're on your way. It's important that no step be made out of order.
We've found swingers are quick to hug upon arrival if they have sex in mind. In that case, hold hands immediately after the hug, then interlace fingers. If that is met with enthusiasm, a kiss is natural, even expected.
Earlier play means earlier to bed and more alert at work the next day. For ol' married folks like ourselves, that spells the difference between a successful evening and one we wish we hadn't had.
Mr. Alura
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