[Trixie1966]

This is Mrs. Trixie again. I really appreciate everyone's replies. I wanted to add that the whip was out because Mr. and the other woman liked LIGHT BDSM and all were ok with that and that was in the plan for the night and part of the fantasy we had laid out. However, I had told the guy from the beginning that I didn't like that and you are all right, he didn't respect that.

I think we felt we knew them pretty well given the huge amount of time we'd spent getting to know them online and on the phone and the long dinner but obviously neither myself nor Mr. were firm enough about our rules which we have in place. We are a strong couple and have discussed our boundries at length. We didn't see that in them and that should have made us walk away and we realize that now.

There are so many little things that they (mostly him) did or said that we see now that by themselves were nothing but together are big things and now it all makes sense.

I have since had a conversation with her over the phone (she called me) before she had talked to him about us dumping them and she was nothing but sweet about it and said she knew I didn't like the whip, knew he had acted like an ass that night, didn't know anything about the weirding out he mentioned to me and said some other things that quickly became obvious to me that he is lying to her about swinging and how he goes about meeting people, what he expects and more. I'm looking at it as that's their problem and not mine and we're glad to be done with them and we'll chalk this up to being lucky it wasn't worse and lesson learned. She seemed sad we weren't going to be friends and wanted to mend fences but I said it was too late.

Thanks for the support! We love this board!

Mrs. Trixie