Wow. We have never experienced anything like that. In fact, quite the opposite. First of all...no one should force you to do anything that you don't want to do. I think a good rule of thumb is this. I never play twice with anyone that I don't have a fabulous time with. Period. I don't feel guilty or obligated.
I do this because it is fun and enriching...it shouldn't bring additional negative stress into your life.