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Originally Posted by LOL_OMG Just read the post and all the bleh bleh's after and I would like to get back to the ORIGINAL post. I don't believe this is a swinger issue, because as you had stated you and the MR always did things together. |
Okay I know I'm new here but I have been swinging and posting on our local swinger yahoo groups for a long time so I've seen and heard just about every question imaginable about things that happen in the lifestyle and I don't understand why people are saying this isn't a swinger issue. Obviously, by the OPs originally statements they have been involved in swinging, the events that happened the night in question very well may have an effect on their future participation in the lifestyle. The mere fact that she stated that they always did things together, but that he went outside of their boundaries makes it a swinger issue. Will she be able to trust him again in the future to not break their boundaries?
Whether or not this is a genuine post or not, the questions posed in it and as a result of it, are genuine and the suggestions offered very well might help someone else in a similar situation.
To the OP (or to others who may be in a similar situation) I understand why you would feel betrayed by your husband and friends actions...obviously your husband knew what he did was wrong which is why he did not tell you about it. I hope that you and your husband can work through the issues this has brought about. Continue talking to each other and sharing your feelings and remember than not only did you lose a child, but so did he. As for the child your friend might be carrying, love it as if it were your own. I saw that you mentioned that the friend is single...maybe she might be acceptable to being a surrogate mother and letting you and your husband have the child after it is born. I know it's not the same as a child from your own body, but if you and your husband want a child as bad as you say you do, than maybe it's better to accept someone else's child as your own then to not have one at all.