Interesting topic. I had an immediate response all typed out but my thoughts finally settled on the fact that there are all types of people out there. Certainly having children there was a bad bad idea, and horrible for those kids if things had gotten out of hand in their presence. Just lastnite I watched some news show that showed people getting their 5 year old high on pot. WTF.
The children being there and having drugs of any kind showed a great disrespect for those of you who were invited. I would have taken it personally. It does take being a bit discriminate with which invites to accept, we wouldn't have anything more to do with these people.
I also agree that a club is much less pressure than a house party, plus they generally have better ventillation for the smoking areas
Sounds like you're having a bit of bad luck meeting the right sort of ppl, of course deciding to quit is up to you...but there are good ones out there.
Mrs