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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie I have to disagree with this. Yes MOST limits that couples set are based on securities but many are based soley on preferences |
You're not really disagreeing with me. Now, you're just picking. (I know, your site, your perogitive.)
I covered the condoms part in my blanket "safe sex" reference. And, I left out "no anal" because it really is an individual preference, not generally an agreed to swinging limitation that a couple decides on together ("honey, let's keep anal between us." Actually, that raises an interesting sidebar, because I perceive the reason that a couple keeps a certain intimacy for themselves, as being governed directly or indirectly by an insecurity--perhaps a fear of surrendering everything.)
So we are back to "most rules being based on one, or the other, or both partner's insecurities".