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transplantdbrit · 03-07-2007, 01:16 PM

Hello everyone.
To answer the question of where I'm from. I was born in Oxford, raised in Brackley. Now on to the subject at hand. For those of you that have deemed me a "troll". I can honestly say that I am not. I now realize that first posts asking for advice in highly emotional situations are not viewed well by many of the long-term members. Before now, I never had need for input from strangers on my marital situation. Of course to become a member to this board might have been quite a bit of fun, not to mention a place to meet other couples. As it is now, I am turning to all of you as like-minded adults, for some advice on my situation. I do realize this is a bit soap-operaish, but genuine never-the-less. I have read everything all have had to say. For those that gave some good ideas and insights, thank you. For everyone else, I'm sorry that you have come by some with less than honorable posts. Play devil's advocate if you must. If you have something to offer, please by all means tell me.

As things stand at home right now, my hubby and I have had some communication. He explained himself and I listened. As far as my gf goes, she called me yesterday, but not much was said. I'm not sure what to say to her. I know I can forgive them both, and screw-ups are all a part of the human condition. I just have to wait things out to see if she is expecting. Yes, for the person that said it wouldn't be the child's fault, I whole heartedly agree. Also yes, his chance to be a father is valid too. My husband loves me and does not want me to leave. I love him and don't want to leave. We must all hope for the best, but prepare for the worst in life. Unfortunately, I'm not sure which scenario fits which bill. I don't want to be selfish and hope for no baby, but I can't help but feel jealous at the thought of her giving birth to his baby. I have been doing quite a bit of soul searching about how I would honestly react to the latter. Unfortunately, I have it in me to have a marriage with swinging, but NOT for a true poly-amorous blended family. While sitting here writing my thoughts to all of you, it seems I have solved a bit of my own problem. Now to wait and see what comes. That will determine my next step. Thank you for the many insights, and I will post the outcome.

03-07-2007, 01:16 PM	#19 (permalink)
transplantdbrit Active Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 25 Location: kissimmee, florida Status: couple/female half	Re: I'm in an Uh-Oh and feeling crushed...need some input Hello everyone. To answer the question of where I'm from. I was born in Oxford, raised in Brackley. Now on to the subject at hand. For those of you that have deemed me a "troll". I can honestly say that I am not. I now realize that first posts asking for advice in highly emotional situations are not viewed well by many of the long-term members. Before now, I never had need for input from strangers on my marital situation. Of course to become a member to this board might have been quite a bit of fun, not to mention a place to meet other couples. As it is now, I am turning to all of you as like-minded adults, for some advice on my situation. I do realize this is a bit soap-operaish, but genuine never-the-less. I have read everything all have had to say. For those that gave some good ideas and insights, thank you. For everyone else, I'm sorry that you have come by some with less than honorable posts. Play devil's advocate if you must. If you have something to offer, please by all means tell me. As things stand at home right now, my hubby and I have had some communication. He explained himself and I listened. As far as my gf goes, she called me yesterday, but not much was said. I'm not sure what to say to her. I know I can forgive them both, and screw-ups are all a part of the human condition. I just have to wait things out to see if she is expecting. Yes, for the person that said it wouldn't be the child's fault, I whole heartedly agree. Also yes, his chance to be a father is valid too. My husband loves me and does not want me to leave. I love him and don't want to leave. We must all hope for the best, but prepare for the worst in life. Unfortunately, I'm not sure which scenario fits which bill. I don't want to be selfish and hope for no baby, but I can't help but feel jealous at the thought of her giving birth to his baby. I have been doing quite a bit of soul searching about how I would honestly react to the latter. Unfortunately, I have it in me to have a marriage with swinging, but NOT for a true poly-amorous blended family. While sitting here writing my thoughts to all of you, it seems I have solved a bit of my own problem. Now to wait and see what comes. That will determine my next step. Thank you for the many insights, and I will post the outcome.