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Originally Posted by blondie77 Okay, I realize most of you have been here a lot longer than I have and I don't normally get involved with things like this....but seriously...even if the OP is a troll...waht if she isn't? What if...what IF this situation is really happening to her? This is a person who is obviously hurting and just asked for help. I thought this board was supposed to help people, to give advice, to offer assistance. If it turns out to be a troll, well, so be it. But perhaps by treating it like it's real, you might actually have the opportunity to help someone who IS going through something similar. I'm sorry to ramble on, but this really hit a nerve with me. I don't like to see people ganged up on, and the story doesn't sound that unbeliveable to me, soap opera or not. I think telling someone who comes in with a problem to get a life isn't very tactful or nice. Troll or not, it makes other posters like me wary of posting very often for fear of getting flamed. Just my opinon. |
DITTO!!! I am new to this board too, and I have felt secure in knowing that people will give me real feedback, and respect what I have to say (unless I act disrespectfully). Even if this person was making this up, and I have no place to say whether she is or not, I think it is callous and insensitive to both the OP and others reading the post, who may or may not be in hard to believe situations. One of my good friends was telling me the other day about something that happened to her on the bus on the way home from work. She was sitting there next to this man, with his two kids. The guy was totally out of it, zoned out, messy, and not paying attention to his kids. The kids were being loud and kind of a pain. She wanted to ask the guy to quiet his kids down a bit, but decided it wasn't that big of a deal. The kids came over to her and were playing a little close to her, at which point the dad asked the kids to come play near him, and quiet down a little. Then he turns to her and say, I am really sorry I wasn't watching them closer, we just came from the hospital, their mother just died. She gave her condolences, and got off at her stop. Moral of the story (for her) was that people have no business assuming ANYTHING about another person. You just never know what someone else has gone through, or is going through. It may sound fake, it may even be fake. But, for her (and I), to be a good human being means giving support and advice where it is asked for. If it is a fake situation, and you give support and love and kind words, you may lose a bit of your time, but someone will take consolation in your words even if it isn't the intended. perhaps you will persuade the prankster through your kind words not to act that way anymore. Either way, you don't lose anything.
I don't mean to lecture, but I just wanted to stand up for this woman, be she real or a fake. Someone out there is going through a situation like hers, and they may look here for advice. Do you want to present an unwelcoming, closed, hurtful face to those that come here for help?
Okay, steping down from my soap box now. :whiteflag :whiteflag lets love each other (not to sound cliche) instead of contributing to intolerance and hate.