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Originally Posted by jtboy They constantly flirt, whether it be in the company of me or others.
She argues that she would feel uncomfortable if I were present when she invited him, and additionally that he would probably be too, but I contest that if I were not present I would feel as though she is going behind my back. |
Hi jtboy,
Have you and your wife only discussed this thing with regard your married friend, or have you and your wife discussed swinging, in general? It sounds like the former, and sounds like she's looking for "permission to cheat" with this one guy, rather than for the two of you sharing a lifestyle together.
When you started out discussing this, were you thinking along the lines of a MFM scenario? It seems that your wife has something else entirely in mind.
I agree with everybody else and you already got more than enough advice. I just wanted to add that it sounds like you and your wife aren't on the same page in the discussion.
This board can be a great tool to learn what swinging is all about. This board answers a lot of questions, and using the "search" feature can bring you to threads on virtually any topic that could come up. What if you and your wife continue to talk? How about sitting down with her and reviewing threads here? It could open new doors. Search the word "cheating" here, and you'll find tons of information that will explain how swingers generally feel about playing with married people going behind their spouse's back (as your friend seems to be doing).
If your friend would cheat on his wife, he'd likely cheat on you, his friend, by going behind
your back.
Take care. I hope you let us know how this all unfolds for you.