Geesh, somehow I missed this question on the first go round and I think you bring up some very valid questions.
For us swinging did change our personal relationship tremendously. The thing is having done so it did not negatively affect us.
The best way that I can describe this is that if you only ever participated once and decided it wasn't for you, I would have to think that it would still make for very intersting pillow talk between the two of you. Even if the experience wasn't what you hoped for it opens a door of communicating with each other in how you would have changed things or highlighted what you enjoyed while you are being intimate with your partner.
It changes even the sublte things like peering over at a table of two or more couples having dinner and wondering.......hmmm could they be swingers? It changes how you view things on a daily basis when you see what you used to think as a subtle touch between people looks more like something more than a casual flirtation. I am not saying that non-swingers don't do this, it is just the difference in how we view others around us now which has added to the erotic times and definitely has made for some highly erotic pillow talk and activity in our own personal lives.
We are in whatever percentage that it did not affect us negatively. Everything even with the bumps in the road has been positive for us. Again though like the others have said, your own relationship must be in check in order to not risk it becoming a negative influence for yourselves.
Lori
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