The Swingers Board - View Single Post - He wants to swing...I don't want to...and it's killing me!!!

2TexasTornados · 02-16-2007, 01:24 PM

Sounds to me like you're definitely not ready to try it out, and that's OK!

You need to tell HIM all this stuff you've just typed out. What guy wouldn't be flattered to know that you get literally feverish at his touch, and worry no other man could do that for you? If it "devastates" you to think about sharing him or yourself with anyone but each other, you're nowhere near taking the leap. Because if you do it anyway, while you're still feeling so torn about it, you're going to experience all sorts of negative emotions. Rejection, jealousy, loss, etc. And no orgasm - his or yours - is going to be worth that.

Take your time, talk to him, and try to feel at peace with your thoughts and decisions on the subject. It's your body and your heart - you gotta do what YOU gotta do.

02-16-2007, 01:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
2TexasTornados Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 67 Location: Texas Status: Couple	Re: Uhhhh....Yaaaa.....I'm back, need help/advice Sounds to me like you're definitely not ready to try it out, and that's OK! You need to tell HIM all this stuff you've just typed out. What guy wouldn't be flattered to know that you get literally feverish at his touch, and worry no other man could do that for you? If it "devastates" you to think about sharing him or yourself with anyone but each other, you're nowhere near taking the leap. Because if you do it anyway, while you're still feeling so torn about it, you're going to experience all sorts of negative emotions. Rejection, jealousy, loss, etc. And no orgasm - his or yours - is going to be worth that. Take your time, talk to him, and try to feel at peace with your thoughts and decisions on the subject. It's your body and your heart - you gotta do what YOU gotta do.