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The Fuse · 02-12-2007, 09:27 AM

Hello Bliss8177,

Welcome to the Board!

I hope you have more success soon. My husband and I have found Swinglifestyle (Swing Lifestyle) to be a good site for us. In fact, except for one couple at a swing club, we've met people exclusively through Swing Lifestyle. That site is popular in our area. I don't know if it is in yours.

Apologies if any of the following sounds obvious, but here goes. First of all, before meeting a couple from an online ad, we always talk to both the man and the woman on the telephone. That eliminates anyone whose wife doesn't know or who is a single man posing. In fact, we've never yet gone to a meeting and found that there wasn't a woman on the other end.

We don't chat too much before asking to talk on the telephone, either, just because chatting is a huge time consumer and the telephone reveals a lot more in a shorter period of time.

Meeting people in clubs works for a lot of people, but we prefer online for a lot of reasons. Not least, it gives you and your SO time to talk things over during the process. For this reason, my comments only apply to meeting people online.

We look at a couples' profile and try to gauge a few things: are both members of the couple involved, or is it just the guy posting pictures of his wife? Do their descriptions reflect a couple in love, or a couple who might be in trouble? Have they given it any thought? We turn these questions around on our own profile, too. If you look at your own and think "these people aren't for real", then it could use a little work. Your profile is probably good, but I haven't seen it so I can't say.

In general, we trust our instincts. If something seems a little funny, even if you can't say why, then we back off.

02-12-2007, 09:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Frustrated Duo in MD Hello Bliss8177, Welcome to the Board! I hope you have more success soon. My husband and I have found Swinglifestyle (Swing Lifestyle) to be a good site for us. In fact, except for one couple at a swing club, we've met people exclusively through Swing Lifestyle. That site is popular in our area. I don't know if it is in yours. Apologies if any of the following sounds obvious, but here goes. First of all, before meeting a couple from an online ad, we always talk to both the man and the woman on the telephone. That eliminates anyone whose wife doesn't know or who is a single man posing. In fact, we've never yet gone to a meeting and found that there wasn't a woman on the other end. We don't chat too much before asking to talk on the telephone, either, just because chatting is a huge time consumer and the telephone reveals a lot more in a shorter period of time. Meeting people in clubs works for a lot of people, but we prefer online for a lot of reasons. Not least, it gives you and your SO time to talk things over during the process. For this reason, my comments only apply to meeting people online. We look at a couples' profile and try to gauge a few things: are both members of the couple involved, or is it just the guy posting pictures of his wife? Do their descriptions reflect a couple in love, or a couple who might be in trouble? Have they given it any thought? We turn these questions around on our own profile, too. If you look at your own and think "these people aren't for real", then it could use a little work. Your profile is probably good, but I haven't seen it so I can't say. In general, we trust our instincts. If something seems a little funny, even if you can't say why, then we back off.
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