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Bliss8177 · 02-12-2007, 12:22 AM

Hey all,

Having looked around the forum, I see that we are not alone in our problem. We are a reletively young couple. (25yo and 30yo respectively) We are clean, (drug and disease free) and drama free as far as we can tell. We are looking for folks round about our own age +/- 5 years. We have met swingers locally, and have also checked out the local polyamourist scene, but don't feel that we fit in with either.
With the swing clubs, things felt like they moved too fast. My Lady was also put off by the demeanor of the singles that were in attendance. With the poly-folk, it all seemed to be about long-term relationships basd on triads and other polygon based relationships. We're just looking for a few good friends. (Other couples, and maybe a few singles) Who also feel like being lovers.
We have tried going through Adult Friend Finder to seek this middle ground, but found that there is a lot of untruth to be found there. So our first effort with online ads went rather poorly. We met with several couples who we met there, but found ourselves in the following situations: 1) Many times we'd find a single guy posing as a couple, or worse yet a married guy who posed as a couple but his wife didn't know.

2) Ended up encountering some psychopathic individuals. (Loong story) or 3) Ended up never actually meeting with the folks we were interested in at all. (Stood up and whatnot.) 4) Quite a few outside our intended age bracket take an interest. We're not putting down those that enjoy the lifestyle as they mature, but for now we'd like to stay in/near our own age bracket. :rollseyes
Due to all of this this we have grown quite discouraged. We know that as a couple we are fine with this lifestyle, becasue we both were involved as swingers when single; and during college we both participated in both MFM, FMF, and MFMF. We're both reasonably experienced in many facets of sexuality, neither of us have ever had a problem with jealosy, and we know what we want, but we can't seem to make it happen. :brickwall

Any thoughts?
Team Bliss8177

02-12-2007, 12:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
Bliss8177 Registered Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Maryland USA Status: Couple	Young & Frustrated Duo in MD Hey all, Having looked around the forum, I see that we are not alone in our problem. We are a reletively young couple. (25yo and 30yo respectively) We are clean, (drug and disease free) and drama free as far as we can tell. We are looking for folks round about our own age +/- 5 years. We have met swingers locally, and have also checked out the local polyamourist scene, but don't feel that we fit in with either. With the swing clubs, things felt like they moved too fast. My Lady was also put off by the demeanor of the singles that were in attendance. With the poly-folk, it all seemed to be about long-term relationships basd on triads and other polygon based relationships. We're just looking for a few good friends. (Other couples, and maybe a few singles) Who also feel like being lovers. We have tried going through Adult Friend Finder to seek this middle ground, but found that there is a lot of untruth to be found there. So our first effort with online ads went rather poorly. We met with several couples who we met there, but found ourselves in the following situations: 1) Many times we'd find a single guy posing as a couple, or worse yet a married guy who posed as a couple but his wife didn't know. 2) Ended up encountering some psychopathic individuals. (Loong story) or 3) Ended up never actually meeting with the folks we were interested in at all. (Stood up and whatnot.) 4) Quite a few outside our intended age bracket take an interest. We're not putting down those that enjoy the lifestyle as they mature, but for now we'd like to stay in/near our own age bracket. :rollseyes Due to all of this this we have grown quite discouraged. We know that as a couple we are fine with this lifestyle, becasue we both were involved as swingers when single; and during college we both participated in both MFM, FMF, and MFMF. We're both reasonably experienced in many facets of sexuality, neither of us have ever had a problem with jealosy, and we know what we want, but we can't seem to make it happen. :brickwall Any thoughts? Team Bliss8177