[cpl2doitwithu]

We won't knowingly play with a cheater, male or female.
Two reasons:

Mrs. C's first husband was banging the babysitter (and anyone else who would let him). Once even in their bed while she was at the hospital delivering their third child. Sorry ... I know, this is not the place to vent.
It did work out well for us in the long run though!

Second, we don't want to be in the middle of any potentially dangerous drama when the spouse finds out.

We don't judge those that do play with cheaters (some of our friends do) but it is just something we won't do.