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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey Why not just say "friends first"? |
Because I don't want to and choose not to?
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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey Call me a minimalist when it comes to my approach at communication, but I tend to think the terms that are more readily understood and accessible are always preferable to jargon.
Besides "opportunists" or "consensual nonmonogamists" doesn't say a thing about a desire for friendship. In fact, both seem to give me the impression - based just on the terminology - that either of you would sleep around without the other if the opportunity arises. "Opportunists" makes me think the exact opposite of developing friendship...
And if Daumal was correct (and I am not so sure he was) then these words have fallen well short of "exactness of thought".
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For the record, given the right set of circumstances, the position of the moon, my Tarot reading for the day, global warming, or whatever, we would consider playing alone or to "sleep around", so that paticular interpretation of the words might be correct.
Perhaps the words don't mean anything to some and conveys the exact opposite. That's cool, as everyone is different and seeking what they want. At the same time, we have met with enough people who understand what we are saying. Those successes are enough for me to keep using my/our "jargon". The jargon seems to weed out the rest who don't understand or do understand and are simply not interested.
Oh, whatever. Freakin' words. Like everything in these alternative lifestyles, it's personal choice and personal expression. I don't care what people call themselves; I just want the ability to label myself as I see fit.