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Old 02-04-2007, 10:40 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Default Re: Ethical Non Monogamy

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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie
Sounds a lot like "sanitation engineer" to me. Call it whatever you want but it's all the same thing in the end.
My thoughts exactly...

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Originally Posted by rpu3
I have used in our ads that we wouldn't necessarily describe ourselves as swingers, but as opportunists or consensual nonmonogamists, so that people that seek sex without friendship or whatever know to pass us by.
Why not just say "friends first"?

Call me a minimalist when it comes to my approach at communication, but I tend to think the terms that are more readily understood and accessible are always preferable to jargon.

Besides "opportunists" or "consensual nonmonogamists" doesn't say a thing about a desire for friendship. In fact, both seem to give me the impression - based just on the terminology - that either of you would sleep around without the other if the opportunity arises. "Opportunists" makes me think the exact opposite of developing friendship...

And if Daumal was correct (and I am not so sure he was) then these words have fallen well short of "exactness of thought".

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