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Tybee Swing · 02-04-2007, 09:23 AM

I think that ethical or consensual non-monogamy sounds more intelligent, thought out and more like a valid way of life than the word "swinging" does.

I think that those who don't know much about the lifestyle view swingers as wild party animals, sex addicts, will-screw-anything people. I think they picture what we do as sort of a crazy gang-bang with a pile of strangers. In fact, I've been approached by newbie men in the lifestyle a few times who assumed I was like this, because they had this image.

They think they can just reach out and take. (It's what they see in porn or have read that swinging is.)

I don't think the general public knows that the majority of swingers are more selective and generally like to know who they're having sex with. I think that today, most of us who swing are more like selective single people are when they're looking for a partner...we have certain tastes and standards, and we want a connection and attraction before we have sex. The only difference is that we are doing it together as couples, rather than 1-by-1 as singles. I know of people who play with friends and don't define themselves as swingers, because they believe the stereotype of swingers (even though they are swinging).

"Swinging" sounds so 60's-70's to me. I think a smaller percentage of us are swinging in the old sense of the word.

02-04-2007, 09:23 AM	#6 (permalink)
Tybee Swing Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,845 Location: Georgia Status: single female	Re: Ethical Non Monogamy I think that ethical or consensual non-monogamy sounds more intelligent, thought out and more like a valid way of life than the word "swinging" does. I think that those who don't know much about the lifestyle view swingers as wild party animals, sex addicts, will-screw-anything people. I think they picture what we do as sort of a crazy gang-bang with a pile of strangers. In fact, I've been approached by newbie men in the lifestyle a few times who assumed I was like this, because they had this image. They think they can just reach out and take. (It's what they see in porn or have read that swinging is.) I don't think the general public knows that the majority of swingers are more selective and generally like to know who they're having sex with. I think that today, most of us who swing are more like selective single people are when they're looking for a partner...we have certain tastes and standards, and we want a connection and attraction before we have sex. The only difference is that we are doing it together as couples, rather than 1-by-1 as singles. I know of people who play with friends and don't define themselves as swingers, because they believe the stereotype of swingers (even though they are swinging). "Swinging" sounds so 60's-70's to me. I think a smaller percentage of us are swinging in the old sense of the word.