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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey I think it is semantics - and I am not a fan of splitting hairs with words. If you say to someone you are "ethically non-monogamous" they will say "you do what with a mongoose?" Tell them you are a "swinger" and they understand as much as they really need to.
My choice? Don't tell them anything. People at swing clubs don't care what you call it and people who aren't swingers don't need to know what you do with your spare time. |
For the spouse and I, and in the context of the world of personal ads or personal interactions, the words we choose to describe ourselves is quite important.
What we seek in a swing club when we go, versus what we seek in a more personal approach via personal introductions, or personal ads or other approaches, or in talking with some of our friends (we are open about our activities with a few close vanilla friends), requires words, or, more precisely, splitting hairs with words. We don't wish to lead anybody on as to what we are and what we seek. I have used in our ads that we wouldn't necessarily describe ourselves as swingers, but as opportunists or consensual nonmonogamists, so that people that seek sex without friendship or whatever know to pass us by.
"Words are made for a certain exactness of thought..." (Rene Daumal)
Heck, the fact that we prefer to split hairs on the words is fair enough warning to others that we may not be their cup of tea, and vice versa, as everyone's mileage may vary. Vive la difference!