Whenever we get together with a couple, we never have any expectations. I’ve said that before. If we all hit it off and end up playing, that’s great. If not, that’s great too. We haven’t met too many people in this lifestyle that we don’t like. We have met many that we aren’t attracted to, but those are two different things.
Most of our friends are in the lifestyle. We love to meet new couples and we do as often as we can. Some we clique with, some we don’t. Some we do play with, but we don’t have sex every time we’re together. Some are great people and we become casual friends, but we never play with. Some (like your example Lori) can’t understand why we don’t want to play with them. Either the attraction is there for everyone, or it’s not. Just because you aren’t sexually attracted to someone, doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends. One couple we know we meet ONLY to have sex. Of course, dinner can and often is a part of our “date,” we only meet them when we all want to party.
We enjoy hanging out with our swing friends. Dinners, drinks, watching DVD’s, playing cards…what ever. We are more comfortable with swingers than “regular” people. We can talk about anything. Let’s face it, you can’t eat lunch with your average co-worker and tell him/her how your wife had 8 orgasms the night before at a friendly cocktail party. An evening of good fellowship is almost as much fun as an evening of playing.
As far as the kid goes, ours is grown (18) and can be more trouble than a toddler. Where you would have to watch what you say in front of a younger child, with an 18-year-old, you have to watch HOW you say it. They aren’t dumb. I’m sure our daughter has suspicions about why we go out overnight sometimes, or have friends over for dinner. But I know that she doesn’t even like to think about Susie and I having sex together. She’d NEVER believe that we have sex with other people. At least, I hope she wouldn’t. |