Thanks for your reply.
I will actually be in Paris, where I still have my apartment, within a matter of days. We already talk everyday on the phone. Of course, we'll talk more once we're together.
I think, normally, I would agree with you and set our relationship in stand-by, but we both don't want that. In fact, our relationship blossomed after I'd left Paris. She was a friend with benefits who was seeing other people at the same time as I was seeing other people. However, after I left, for what I thought was going to be 1, 2 months max, she kept in constant contact with me... email, phone calls, IM, video chat, photos, videos. The distance actually brought us closer, and for me, helped filter out the distractions that prevented me from seeing what we had together.
I'm seriously OK with being apart from her. I'm on a mission. Part of my mission, now, is to bring us back together.
I'm also OK with her finding another partner. I think it's what she needs, and now that she's spending the night (w/o sexual contact) with our friend, I can feel that she's happier and healthier... although she still misses me and would rather I were in the bed.
It's simply a question of money that I'm not with her, as I am more flexible than she is when it comes to travel. As a filmmaker, I could (and did) live in Paris while leaving for short time periods. That time will come again. It's not like started working for the U.S. Postal Service with only 1 week of vacation per year.
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Originally Posted by carlos_pchot Hello there, I think your issue it's not exactly swinging related, but still it's a good way to talk about it and receive some advice.
Long distance relationships are always difficult to handle, and you have seen why, it's something you have to talk about given the chance to be together both of you in the future.
If you won't find any way to be together soon, it's probably best to set the relationship in stand by and be on your own for both of you. It would be quite selfish to keep her in a long distance relationship like that and if you love her like you say, probably would be for the best.
Stay in touch, don't close yourself to the chance of being with her in the future, but it's better to be on your own, with any other people around. If you're meant to be with her, you'll get together again.
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