I read this thread and must say that Larry and Michelle are the kind of couple we avoid like the plague.
(1) They are not a committed couple. Meeting people who are "just dating" is just too much drama! They're just getting to know each other, for god's sake. The best sex we have is with other committed couples who know each other inside and out.
(2) They cannot separate sex from love. Yes, some swingers develop relationships, but those are the L/Sers we see have problems. We'll stick with the bed-notchers. If we become friends, that's fine...in fact, that's great! But if the sex you have together AFTER swinging is NOT enhanced, then please do NOT swing. You're not ready.
(3) It's all about the girls, my friend. If a couple is male-dominated, that's drama waiting to happen, too. The guy tends to be controlling, whether he admits to it or not. And, Larry, you are a controller.
(4) We've never gotten the soft-swing/swap thing. If you're doing "everything but intercourse", you're placing way too high a value on that one sex act. See comment #2 and #3. The most awesome swingers we know (and that we fuck again and again) are more interested in their partners' pleasure, hence they receive the ultimate in pleasure. Whatever you GIVE, you will receive back TEN-FOLD! Hey, I think I quoted the Bible!!! ROTFLMAO
