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Originally posted by CantonCouple
Mrs.CC asks -
Although swinging is an erotic fantasy, When fantasy becomes reality does it change your whole reality and who you are or is it just play? I suppose it is just a mind set that you have to keep for yourself. I am just wondering to what degree it changed you, and your relationship with the person you have pledged your faith love and life to. We have just started thinking about this and, I would be very sad if something were to change to the love and respect I have for him. |
You are on the right track.
It does indeed change your reality. Most of us are conditioned to be faithful and that having sex with someone outside of marraige is a breach of the vow.
The vow consists of what you make it though. IF you promise to be true and honest, then swinging doesn't compromise the vow.
If you are religous then you need to address between you if that is a factor.
If there is jealousy in the relationship then don't do it. PERIOD.
If you want an extra bang for the buck then its all fun. Its tremendously intense having sex with other people while your loved one is there.
Its up to you to decide if you want to go there, cuz there will in fact be a change.
I would say that for the half of the people the change is good.
For one quarter only one partner is happy.
And for one quarter both wonder why the hell they didn't do it a long time ago. These people are true swingers. They are happy with their relationship and just know that it can't be threatened by sexual play.
If you don't have marital problems and both agree that it sounds like fun then try it.
If you have marital problems stay away from it.
Everyone has marital problems, I mean serious ones btw.
Sometimes swinging can be the spark that re-unites a couple that has been in a rut.
Talk about the entire situation in great detail with your partner. I mean talk about the act itself, how you think you will react and what not only excites you but scares you.
If you can get through that discussion then you are probably ready to try.
Give it a long time. Do not expect to find someone to swing with right away. Go through the thousands of threads in this forum and decide what piques you and what turns either of you off.
Communicate earnestly about this before you do anything.
THen come to Florida and find me. OH I DID IT AGAIN>shit
John