The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Breaking the news to Wife that I intend to swing without her

bigjoehd · 01-12-2007, 10:08 PM

Well i for one wouldnt be happy about having "conditional" sex & i wouldnt stand for it either,i'll go against the grain here & say that i think your approaching this fairly as long as you tell her your plans in advance & give her the chance to make things better.Nobody should be stuck in a sexless marriage & be left with divorce or no sex as the only options.

For everybody who says this is not swinging how so?. If he tells his wife his plans beforehand & gives her the chance to make things right this is not cheating,to cheat their needs to be deciet,falsehoods,lies ect,we only see single people are they not swinging when they play with us?

Back to the question of how to break it to her,if i were you i'd sit her down & tell her very bluntly that having a good sex life is important to you & having conditional sex is not healthy & is making you miserable,i'd also let her know that i didnt want a divorce but if the dull sex life continued without her even trying to seek medical help or try to find a way to make things better that i would be seeking other people to fulfill my needs.

Weather her lack of desire has to do with your previous cheating,lack of desire for you or just her own low sex drive its not fair of her to expect you as a human to be ok with the way she presents sex to you.

01-12-2007, 10:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
bigjoehd Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 63 Location: michigan Status: married couple	Re: Breaking the news to Wife Well i for one wouldnt be happy about having "conditional" sex & i wouldnt stand for it either,i'll go against the grain here & say that i think your approaching this fairly as long as you tell her your plans in advance & give her the chance to make things better.Nobody should be stuck in a sexless marriage & be left with divorce or no sex as the only options. For everybody who says this is not swinging how so?. If he tells his wife his plans beforehand & gives her the chance to make things right this is not cheating,to cheat their needs to be deciet,falsehoods,lies ect,we only see single people are they not swinging when they play with us? Back to the question of how to break it to her,if i were you i'd sit her down & tell her very bluntly that having a good sex life is important to you & having conditional sex is not healthy & is making you miserable,i'd also let her know that i didnt want a divorce but if the dull sex life continued without her even trying to seek medical help or try to find a way to make things better that i would be seeking other people to fulfill my needs. Weather her lack of desire has to do with your previous cheating,lack of desire for you or just her own low sex drive its not fair of her to expect you as a human to be ok with the way she presents sex to you.