[TheDeal]

He-he! Are you guys on CT? There are many reasons I see this is a great way to swing. I must admit though, the biggest reason for me (yes, just me) is that I was never with many women prior to being married. I was the nice guy, best friend, geeky Band Freak! back in HS. By the time I was an adult; the influence of my women friends made it difficult to engage in casual sex. Yes, that sucked! I had this anti-macho-guy syndrome that made me become friends with women before I would even date them!

Now, I find myself in the Lifestyle where casual sex is the goal?!? WTF? I used to joke to my friends (about not trying to pickup every chick I met) that I really wanted to keep the amount of girls that saw me naked down to a minimum. Ya know, just incase all of them and myself were ever in the same room together. Funny, cause that actually happened right after I met my wife. That would be the problem with being friends before and after you date someone. At some point all of your friends (X-girlfriends) might actually meet you out, at the same place. Now, in the LS this would be a very good thing, but in the vanilla world...

So, bottom line; I still have not been with a large number of girls and I still don't like the idea of meeting someone, bedding them and moving on.

To us, it's more about the fantasy and less about the variety.