 Re: Sharing Fantasies
We got to the sharing of fantasies slowly... we started by sharing our tamest fantasies. Then one day about 4 years ago, while on a cross-country road trip, we broke the boredom of being on the interstate by telling each other stories. We went into great detail and kept telling more and more. it was a blast, and we were SO horny driving along! Boy, was that an exciting night at the Holiday Inn!!
Later we talked about it. We had both 'come clean' with actual past events - not just fantasies. We wondered why we hadn't earlier - we'd been together and 'lightly involved' in the lifestyle for many years. Why hadn't we 'fessed up' to past experiences? FEAR - as TNT said. We decided we had been worried that the other would think less of us, or be disgusted with our past behavior.
Maybe it's simply that as time passed we became more trusting and comfortable in our relationship. Once we reached the comfort level all we needed was an excuse to start talking. We're pretty sure that we could have 'handled' it years ago - just never had the opportunity (or MADE the opportunity) to discuss it until that wonderfully memory-filled drive!!
Sarah
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