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Originally Posted by VanHlebar ...She doesn't give back anything to me at all. No oral, no touching and the only kissing is if I am the one to initiate it.
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She doesn't give you oral, she doesn't touch you, since they're a soft swap couple that means no intercourse, and she has only kissed you when
you initiate? My gawd man, why the heck are you putting up with this?
It sounds like she only wants oral from you (am I right) and then she's off to play with Mrs Van and her hubby. You're getting the short end of this whole deal.
I'm curious, what does the other hubby do with Mrs Van and what does Mrs Van do with him?
The problem with finding a "great" couple who is also "local" is that you start talking yourself into trying to make it work even though the signs all say "DEAD END." You so badly want it to work that you try overlook the obvious things that aren't working for all of you - and in your case - you start wondering if you're the problem.
I don't think you're the problem at all. And I think you did the right thing by writing them about how you feel.
BTW, have they responded since you wrote? Please update us.
You didn't say if you met this couple through an ad site, or how much you learned about each other's style of play, boundaries, etc. before you got together. Was this clearly apparent before you began playing? This could be a clue to the less than fulfilling experiences you've had; you may be meeting people who aren't prepared to share themselves like you and Mrs Van want to share yourselves with others.
LM