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And to the comments of me wanting to control her, or the situation, I don't think its too much to ask that a rule like "no intercourse" be stuck to, or discussed before it happens.
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Your right & there is nothing wrong with talking about what both of you would like to do & what each of you is dead set against but heat of the moment situations do not replicate the talks people have beforehand.
I did not mean that "you" were trying to control "her" but i did mean that you thought that you both could control the situation which you now see only works to a degree,what if the roles were reversed then add the alcohol you both drank & it could have been you on the rule breakling end of the evening without it being intentional.What both myself & my wife try to get people to understand about making this work is that you need to be able to roll with the punches & be able to accept things when they happen,there is no blueprint for all of the shit we do but the main goal is to have fun not to ruin your life or others lives.
Look,if your here then your no different than the rest of us & if your trying to find ways to make this lifestyle work better for you as a couple thats great but you have to realize that nothing goes as planned & you can expect more things to upset you along the way,either accept them & move on or stop seeing other people,its all part of the price of admission.