[EvilMJ]

I thought this sounded familiar.

All I can say is the answer to what's wrong with flirting is that you are hurting your husband. You aren't taking the time to realize how this makes him feel. Sure he knows you love him, but you are destroying his trust in you and putting doubts in his head.

It may make sense to you that you love him and only lust after the other guy, but in your husband's eyes he sees you doing something, behind his back, with another man you lust after. I would feel the same way in his shoes. You have to take the time and think about how your actions are going to affect him, and then ask yourself if it's worth it.

Swinging isn't a one person thing (unless you are single), it is about both of you having fun. And your right in your comparison about candy being taken away because (and this may sound harsh) but you are acting like a child with candy being taken away. He showed you that he trusted you by leaving you alone with the husband to kiss goodnight and you showed him that he can't trust you by giving a 'sample bj'.

Unless you plan to be clear with your husband about following the rules and showing that he has your trust then you shouldn't swing any more. I also think that you shouldn't swing with that couple. It was not a big thing but your husband is not comfortable with them and that should be enough.

Get your relationship back on track, and start again fresh with a new couple.

Good luck