The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She crossed our limitation of soft-swinging and had intercourse

djjwp · 01-07-2007, 12:10 AM

Man does this post bring back memories…all bad.

IMHO, (this means you do not have to agree with it!) blame is not the answer or issue here but what are the issues include hurt felling, insecurities, and trust; all three will need maturity to correct on both his and her part.

I went through a divorce with the first wife because we were both immature and made bad decisions in the process of even thinking about working out the problems we had. You learn this as you grow older and hopefully wiser. We are now good friends 15 years after the divorce and agree we let anger and hurt feeling control us and trash what we had. STUPID!

My advice is this.
Let the anger go, it will eat you alive.
Sleep
Remember that you are both with each other by mutual consent and do not own each other.
Ask yourself if losing your relationship is really what you want, the path you seem to be on so far is dragging you in that direction! If you love her, you have to deal with your feelings.
Always remember you can never change anyone. They have to do it and want to in the first place. If you want to keep her, you need to want to change yourself and then do it.

01-07-2007, 12:10 AM	#27 (permalink)
djjwp Suffering from Hedo2 DIF Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 313 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Status: Couple SLS Name:djjwp	Re: Too Much Happenned Man does this post bring back memories…all bad. IMHO, (this means you do not have to agree with it!) blame is not the answer or issue here but what are the issues include hurt felling, insecurities, and trust; all three will need maturity to correct on both his and her part. I went through a divorce with the first wife because we were both immature and made bad decisions in the process of even thinking about working out the problems we had. You learn this as you grow older and hopefully wiser. We are now good friends 15 years after the divorce and agree we let anger and hurt feeling control us and trash what we had. STUPID! My advice is this. Let the anger go, it will eat you alive. Sleep Remember that you are both with each other by mutual consent and do not own each other. Ask yourself if losing your relationship is really what you want, the path you seem to be on so far is dragging you in that direction! If you love her, you have to deal with your feelings. Always remember you can never change anyone. They have to do it and want to in the first place. If you want to keep her, you need to want to change yourself and then do it. __________________ Life is only as good as you make it!