[lovinher]

To the OP. I should have included it earlier. You had every right to be pissed and hurt but your ONLY choice is to talk this through or you two are done. Your get even approach will create more problems than it solves and you will still feel betrayed. Are you suddenly going to trust her by fucking someone else? The only way to regain that trust is to keep talking with your wife, give her a chance and be patient.