The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She crossed our limitation of soft-swinging and had intercourse

**good times** · 01-06-2007, 09:21 PM

While I agree with what Lovinher said I also can see where BigJoehd is coming from too, because we have been there more than once.

In my opinion, the OP here has no business going to a swingers club if he is having these issues. It is true that his girlfriend overstepped the agreed upon boundaries but, in my view anyway, he is overreacting here. If he now goes to the club again with these unresolved issues it is almost certain to just lead to more drama which no one needs, that includes him, his girlfriend, or anyone else unlucky enough to get involved with them.

You can probably guess from what I've said that one of my pet peeves is the amount of people I see coming to the clubs that are not ready to be there, let alone ready to be swingers. This is how I can say I understand bigjoehd's feelings, we have been unfortunate enough to have hooked up with people who are not secure enough in there relationship or where one half of the couple has insecurities not compatible with swinging, and let me tell you, it usually ruins the whole evening for us.

01-06-2007, 09:21 PM	#23 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,415 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Too Much Happenned While I agree with what Lovinher said I also can see where BigJoehd is coming from too, because we have been there more than once. In my opinion, the OP here has no business going to a swingers club if he is having these issues. It is true that his girlfriend overstepped the agreed upon boundaries but, in my view anyway, he is overreacting here. If he now goes to the club again with these unresolved issues it is almost certain to just lead to more drama which no one needs, that includes him, his girlfriend, or anyone else unlucky enough to get involved with them. You can probably guess from what I've said that one of my pet peeves is the amount of people I see coming to the clubs that are not ready to be there, let alone ready to be swingers. This is how I can say I understand bigjoehd's feelings, we have been unfortunate enough to have hooked up with people who are not secure enough in there relationship or where one half of the couple has insecurities not compatible with swinging, and let me tell you, it usually ruins the whole evening for us. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)