[Spoomonkey]

There is a fundamental flaw in your question and I almost didn't catch it. In fact, I wrote a box-full of response before it hit me that I was answering a defective wringer.

To ask why a man would let another man fuck his wife is like asking a man why he'd let another man borrow his tools. My tools are mine - can get lost - and don't have the wits to come home once they've been used. I own my tools, I bought and paid for my tools, and my tools are with me whether they like it or not.

My wife, on the other hand... She's with me because - for some reason - after running a gauntlet of men before me - decided that she was more than willing to stop and be with me. I don't own her, I don't control her and I DON'T loan her out.

You see - swinging isn't about me letting other men fuck her. Swinging is about us, partners in crime, experiencing adventures that we - as a couple - want to share. Those adventures include her fucking other men, yes, but they also include me fucking other women, us fucking other couples and a few other interesting combinations and pile ups. We do this together - in agreement - and we smile (sometimes laugh) together about it later.

Your question is flawed because I do not let other men fuck my wife - she does. She does so while respecting me and allowing me to give her permission to do so - and accepting when my gut tells me "no." Wives are not chattel.

I've seen a LOT of disrespect in the lifestyle - heartless husbands forcing their wives into a swing scene that isn't for them. And I've watched a lot of wives cat through a club with an attitude of "my husband will just have to deal with it" as she picks and does whoever she wants while hubby sits at the bar drinking and pissed...

I can assure you that this is not a picture of us - and fortunately it is not a picture of most of the active posters on this board.

Spoomonkey