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WesternSwing · 01-05-2007, 01:03 AM

DANGER r_poseidon, DANGER!

This is a drama couple.

They are obviously not on the same page about swinging. It would seem from your post that they are probably into it for different reasons, or the wrong reasons.

If you want to remain friends with them you need to talk to them outright about this. Tell them that you feel they have some stuff they need to work through and you want to remain friends with them, but right now you're not comfortable playing with them.

They may be offended. You may get a mixed reaction, like he's pissed and she's happy about it. Or they may both realize it and have no problem. But, IMO, the honesty is always the best policy, even if the short-term outcome isn't what you'd hope it will be.

Mr. WS

01-05-2007, 01:03 AM	#3 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: Couple not ready? DANGER r_poseidon, DANGER! This is a drama couple. They are obviously not on the same page about swinging. It would seem from your post that they are probably into it for different reasons, or the wrong reasons. If you want to remain friends with them you need to talk to them outright about this. Tell them that you feel they have some stuff they need to work through and you want to remain friends with them, but right now you're not comfortable playing with them. They may be offended. You may get a mixed reaction, like he's pissed and she's happy about it. Or they may both realize it and have no problem. But, IMO, the honesty is always the best policy, even if the short-term outcome isn't what you'd hope it will be. Mr. WS
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