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Chicup · 01-04-2007, 12:14 PM

I can somewhat relate.

After our first full swap part of me was going a bit crazy with jealousy, the other part of me said 'Hey you just had sex with his wife, you are even, quit your bitching.' It took about a week of internal fighting, but losing that jealousy was the best thing about swinging.

My general observation is that women 'adapt' to swinging easier than men. Its genetic, we can't help it, we are programed to keep our women from having sex with other men, its a male thing.

If when we first full swapped, I didn't have sex with his wife, I think it would have been a lot harder to adjust to.

Honestly and I know this will go against the grain, I do think the best way to 'get over' it is to have sex with other women. This is good advice to get over a girl who dumps you, and the same mental dynamic applies here. Talking it out won't make you feel a lot better, logic only takes you so far, but doing it with someone else and thinking 'this isn't such a big deal' will help.

01-04-2007, 12:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Too Much Happenned I can somewhat relate. After our first full swap part of me was going a bit crazy with jealousy, the other part of me said 'Hey you just had sex with his wife, you are even, quit your bitching.' It took about a week of internal fighting, but losing that jealousy was the best thing about swinging. My general observation is that women 'adapt' to swinging easier than men. Its genetic, we can't help it, we are programed to keep our women from having sex with other men, its a male thing. If when we first full swapped, I didn't have sex with his wife, I think it would have been a lot harder to adjust to. Honestly and I know this will go against the grain, I do think the best way to 'get over' it is to have sex with other women. This is good advice to get over a girl who dumps you, and the same mental dynamic applies here. Talking it out won't make you feel a lot better, logic only takes you so far, but doing it with someone else and thinking 'this isn't such a big deal' will help.