[lovinher]

Personally I have never been able to figure out how oral is considered soft swing. In some ways to me it seems even more intimate than intercourse. Just my opinion folks-no need to go there. But given the alcohol and the oral going on I can see how the first time could have happened. But the second time was blatantly in your face betrayal. I'm sure your trust in her is zero right now but give it time. You both need to talk and talk and talk until this is resolved. In the mean time, all playiing should stop. Until you regain your trust in her this should be a no brainer.
Hope things work out for the both of you.