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Originally Posted by knottyboi I know that many people that are swingers do want to be friends with the people they swing with - but to be completely honest, I don't. I want to be friendly, like each other, and talk a few times, but other than that, I just want to have a stress-free, no emotional ties, sexual good time. If I wanted the stress and emotional ties, I would find a polyamorous partner. |
Hi knottyboi,
I would quote yourself with what you told us here, and tell the couple you met just what you told us. You worded that very well! Just be completely honest with them. Be yourself, and share openly exactly what you want and what you don't want. Complete honesty really is the best policy.
If they are cling-ons or stickys (cool terms in this thread), yes, maybe their feelings will be hurt a little. Maybe they are more poly than swinger, and don't even know it, yet. Either way, you'll make your point and things will resolve, one way or the other. There's a chance that they don't realize they're being pushy with this constant contact, and will respect your wishes after you tell them, with things going onward successfully between you and them.
By the way, I feel exactly as you do. I like to be friendly, and I even like to be friends in a very casual way, but I can't stand the pressure to be in constant contact. There's something very needy about people who get demanding about contact, and that turns me off.
Best wishes!