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to the board! I can see why you'd need advice. Pushy people are NOT fun! They do start out as nice, you play together and have a great time, then they IM you to death.
What you need to do is be blunt. Tell them they are being too pushy, and you're feeling too pressured to ever want to enjoy their company again. Maybe they will then get the message. We did have to do this with one couple who IM'd us constantly! It made me never want to contact them again.
I feel the same you do. I've really enjoyed all the people that we've ever played with, yet we don't want to feel pressured that we want to spend time with them in a social setting. We want to have a stress-free sexual good time. Good Luck with your situation.
